What is education?  How could we make use of the education and parenting perspective in order to guide children to develop confidence and courage to live?

There is a coach who enforces a very strict handball training to hone his students. The movement of players are precise, looks like they are working on a secret plan. The mental and physical requirements from the coach are very strict, from his perspective -  handball training is to put a team of well-trained young children attitude towards strategic thinking, utilize tactical cooperation and fair competition. It sounds like quite a clear-cut command, but what the players experience is a continuing love. With discipline and love to lead his students, ultimately resulting in his secret of success.

The coach is the palace Salem High School teacher. At school, he trained his students like training a team of his handball members.  The students love him and also worship him, other teacher are surprised on how he applies his principles to win the hearts of these young people.  We are also a little envious of him.  Because he can enforce discipline after the struggle of 1968 student movement in Germany.

His teaching style, and also his full understanding of the young generation, he "accompany"  to grow up with the young people in the education environment, earn a great deal of recognition. Each singe voice who is against him, become vague and barren compared to his education enthusiasm. Some people are born in relation to a teacher, he is one of an exciting stories.

In a same period of time, there’s another female school teacher. Her style is completely opposite to that of the teacher, she also has a relatively high expectation and requirement to her students, but adopting a different approach. She uses a graceful, calm authority, but her enthusiasm is also as strong as the male teacher in  Argentina and can win the students to obey.

Guide their children, or let the children grow up on their own? Traditionally we put education into two opposing ways. What the male teacher wants students are learnt to be independent but achieved freedom. Adopting gardeners principle tend to focus on this point: young people need grow under a good environment, so support him instead of setting requirement for him with less interference in student’s growth, but believe they will be disciplined,  which implies that authority and mandatory is not necessary.

Authoritarian education ended after the dictatorship. After Germany suffering the pain of authoritarian education experience, expects everyone is a gardener in a country, but ended up in no teaching. Because the gardener’s concept is biased so there is no need for children to be disciplined. Competent gardener, still have to trim vegetation, grafting cuttings to protect vegetation from pests and diseases and not crooked.

Education, need to have  "to lead “meaning. With the leadership, some people follow. However, children are not born to obey, the children sometimes do not listen, do not obey, unruly, for the purpose of willful chaos.

A 3 year-old child is also less likely to express, we need to bear his bad temper, and also to hold back not hitting the children, so parents need to enforce an appropriate discipline. This self-discipline varies based on the different level of parents’education.

Well-educated parents know that teaching children requires courage.  Although discipline will bring unpleasant experience, but we still need to face the conflict positively, do not give up easily, nor in a large crowd under the retreat.  To teach children to obey, you have to prove your mettle in front of onlookers. You should also insist when facing other relatives and friends at home.

The courage of education means the courage to insist discipline.  Discipline is the most unlovable part of education, but it is the basis of all education.

Discipline is placed on the principle of efficient principle: To achieve the goal, it shall be subject to all kinds of moderation, even moderation must accept. From the education perspective, discipline is coming from loving for his children and adolescents.